Monthly Archives: August 2011

Rate yourself on How Well you Understand Your Lover for a Healthy Relationship.

The acid test on how well you understand your lover is always when he or she says or does something it would never occur to you to say or do under any circumstances. So when it happens it comes at you right out of the blue. Here are some examples we’ve found in working with […]

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Shining Light on Conflicts Beneath the Surface will Target Marital Problems and Encourage Healthy Relationships.

This is an exercise that we’ve used with couples for years at Marriage Couples Counseling in New York City. It takes a lot of work and effort and usually requires help from the therapist but it really sheds light on hidden conflicts so couples can do something concrete about them in a focused, creative manner. […]

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How to Talk to Your Lover can help build a Healthy Relationship and Avoid Marital Problems that can lead to an Abusive Relationship.

Time after time in our work with couples, at Marriage Couples Counseling in New York City, we hear how lovers get caught up in heated, often hurtful arguments that can lead to recurring marital problems and, sometimes, abusive relationships because they don’t know how to express their deeper hurts. There are three possible ways that […]

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In Healthy Relationships, Lovers Always Discover the Sub-text of Their Arguments

Whenever lovers argue, what they usually fight about isn’t the real argument. There’s always some fear or deeper hurt that gets triggered by your tone of voice, the way you’re looking at each other and especially when one of you loses it and just blows up. Probably the worst way to argue is not to […]

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A Healthy Relationship Means Stretching for Your Lover

A great way to build or maintain a healthy relationship is to learn what’s really important to your lover. An important exercise that we use at Marriage Couples Counseling in New York City is taken from Harville Hendrix’s Imago Therapy. It’s called Stretching for your Lover. Make a list of things your lover could do […]

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