Monthly Archives: April 2013

Why Harsh Judgements of Women and Men are Harmful: The Pressure to Live Correct, Morally Perfect Lives is Forcing Us to Live a Remake of The Truman Show

In a recent Huff Post Travel blog, a woman tells of being searched by Vermont border guards who disapproved of her sexy underwear and looked “scathingly” at the condoms they discovered in one of her bags. About a week later in the airport at Montreal, she was detained for several hours and insulted by customs […]

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What Sheryl Sandberg Misses About Impostor Syndrome: There are Two Versions, One for Women, the Other Reserved Exclusively for Men

The most controversial, and troubling, aspect of Sheryl Sandberg’s book, Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead, is her advocacy of Lean In Circles and the way she pitches them to prospective members. Like empowerment groups, Lean In Circles are promoted as forums in which women are urged to share their personal stories […]

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John Bowlby’s Four Patterns of Early Attachment

Life is all about connection and attachment which are wired into us from birth. And the kind of early attachment we experience in childhood has a tremendous impact on the fears, insecurities and shameful feelings we experience as adults in everyday life, especially in intimate relationships with our lovers. Take a close look at each […]

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Whats Wrong with the Sex in HBO’s GIRLS? One Vital Ingredient is Missing.

In the first season of HBO’s GIRLS, we see three sex scenes written by Lena Dunham that really leave us wondering: First, Hannah who makes a half-hearted effort at a deeper emotional connection with her boyfriend Adam but lapses into role playing his sexual fantasies, much like an anthropologist might engage in participant observation. “I […]

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Which is Worse for Women Today: Being a Slut or a Virgin, and Why Should We Care?

A recent survey finding reported in The San Francisco Weekly and subsequently cited in The San Francisco Huff Post revealed that 10 % of San Francisco women admitted to still being virgins and that, on average, they lose their virginity at 19 years of age compared to the national average of 18. Could this be […]

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