Category Archives: Growth

Brene Brown on the Difference between Empathy and Sympathy

Here is a lovely 3 minute YouTube video by Brene Brown on The Difference between Empathy and Sympathy. There are four qualities of empathy: You’re able to take the other person’s perspective. You stay out of judgment (not easy when you enjoy judging as much as most of us do). You connect with something in […]

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Affairs Can be an Opportunity, albeit a painful one, Instead of a Setback

The key question is always: Why are you or your lover having the affair? The person having the affair is usually looking for a level of intimacy, novelty, feeling desirble, a feeling of being alive again. It’s absolutely crucial for the betrayed lover to shift from being the investigator of the hows and whens of […]

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Laci and Tibi Noe

  There are three floors in the Holocaust Museum in New York City: Before, During and After. At the sign out register on the third floor, we found this dedication to Laci and Tibi Noe, two little boys lost in one of the concentration camps in Transnistria.   And here are two souvenirs of Jewish […]

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Romeo and Juliet as another new millennial couple: If he’d loved her, they would have got away.

If ever there were two lovers whose chances for happiness were destroyed by the long simmering hatred of their families of origin, they must surely be Romeo and Juliet. Here’s how their conflicts might be played out in a modern, satirical exchange between the two lovers in bawdy Shakespearean rhyme, an exchange that starts off […]

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Understanding Your Lover’s Biological Temperament Can Soften Misunderstandings and Conflicts

In the three years they’ve been together as lovers Seth and Brenda sometimes drive each other up the wall.      “We lead separate lives,” she tells him. When you want to party, I never feel you want to introduce me to your friends, show them I’m your girl. Like she’s real. She exists. Its like […]

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