A healthy marriage is one in which both spouses understand each other, love each other, and welcome each other’s differences. It’s a lot more than just compromising. Why? There will always be differences in a marriage, so compromise is a given. The three golden rules of healthy marriages are curiosity, patience, and tenderness.
The key question is always: Why are you or your lover having the affair?
DISCOVER THE HURT BENEATH THE PUNCH It’s absolutely critical that the couples therapist helps you to re-frame your arguments. Every couple fights differently and most of the time what they’re fighting about isn’t the real argument. Some deeper hurt or frustration usually gets triggered by the way they express themselves if something is bothering them. […]
