Category Archives: relationship challenges

Is HBO’s GIRLS really about the girls or every girl for herself?

Having just watched the third season of HBO’s Girls, it saddens me to realize that the lives of Hannah, Marnie, Jessa and Shoshanna differ in one crucial respect from those of their older gen-ex sisters in Sex in the City. The most moving aspect of Sex in the City was how Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda and […]

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What is an Empathic Breach? A Picture’s Worth a Thousand Words.

 I’m too beautiful to feel your pain.                 Nobody can feel your pain like me.      I can almost feel your pain.      You make me ache in places I never felt before.   Now what are you complaining about!?   How interesting. Tell me more.   This poor kid needs attention. […]

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Brene Brown on the Difference between Empathy and Sympathy

Here is a lovely 3 minute YouTube video by Brene Brown on The Difference between Empathy and Sympathy. There are four qualities of empathy: You’re able to take the other person’s perspective. You stay out of judgment (not easy when you enjoy judging as much as most of us do). You connect with something in […]

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Affairs Can be an Opportunity, albeit a painful one, Instead of a Setback

The key question is always: Why are you or your lover having the affair? The person having the affair is usually looking for a level of intimacy, novelty, feeling desirble, a feeling of being alive again. It’s absolutely crucial for the betrayed lover to shift from being the investigator of the hows and whens of […]

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Ten Types of Hookups

Elite Daily recently provided a breakdown of 10 types of hookups.  Which one best describes your way of engaging in a new relationship? 1. The One-Night Stand Hit or miss, sex first, friends second, if at all. Can easily get to be a habit, like masturbation.  2. A Second Glance Drank too much the first […]

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