If you feel the flame burning out in your relationship, or if you’re looking to repair intimacy with your partner, you may want to consider bonding through sex and touch as one of your options. Sex and touch require intimacy and openness, which both require vulnerability.
Re-opening those doors with your partner could lead to rediscovering a world neither of you have experienced in a while. Interested in learning how to bond with your partner through sex and touch? Keep on reading below for more information.
Spicing Things Up in the Bedroom
A wonderful way to keep the spark alive in your relationship is by bringing back sexual intimacy you may have lost after years of work, kids and distractions. Maybe sex has become a chore – something neither of you really look forward to, but do it out of some sort of marital obligation.
Where is the heat? Where is the passion you two had years ago?
Bringing back the spice and heat in your relationship is one way you and your partner can bond and come together. Now, this isn’t saying that you and your partner need to go from 0 to full-on porn stars in the bedroom; unless that’s something you two want to try. However, trying new things you may not have before is a very sexy and fun way to amp up your relationship. Communicate with your partner any things you have been wanting to try, but haven’t asked yet.
Whether it’s something as simple as taking it from the bed to the couch, or something a bit more risque, like BDSM (bondage/discipline, domination/submission, sadism/masochism) or exhibitionism. Allow yourselves to be more vulnerable in bed together, and you will both notice the positive difference in your relationship – not just sexually, but in your everyday bond.
The Importance of Touch
Touch is far more important than you may think. A study found that students in school are about three times more likely to give feedback in class after their teacher gave them a friendly touch or pat. If the impact is that significant among students, imagine how much you and your partner’s relationship can be positively impacted by working to make an effort to caress and touch each other more.
Whether they are purposeful or at random, gentle touches to your partner can cause a very positive impact. After all, the formation of human relationships is started and strengthened through the power of touch. Showing more affection to your partner reassures them of your feelings and that you are there for them, allowing your bond to grow more and grow healthier than ever before.
We all need this kind of reassurance in every interpersonal relationship we find ourselves in, especially romantic ones. Holding hands and hugging causes the stress hormone, cortisol, to decrease, and it increases serotonin, the hormone that boosts happiness levels. It’s important to be aware and cognizant of how we are treating our significant others and to know that the little things – like gentle touches – make the biggest difference.
If you’re struggling with intimacy, closeness or other issues in your relationship, contact Marriage Couples Counseling in New York City to see how you and your partner can be helped by bonding through sex and touch. Give us a call at 212-673-4618 for an in-depth phone consultation.
