All About the 5 Love Languages

All About the Five Love Languages

There are few things greater than loving someone and being loved in return. As emotional and sentient beings, we all have a specific way we love others, and in turn, ways we desire to be loved. Maybe you’ve realized you give love in the form of physical affection, so you feel more reassured when your significant other gives you a loving embrace at the end of a long day. Maybe you’re someone who needs to be told exactly how your partner feels about you for ultimate reassurance and comfort.

There’s not only a name for these reasonings, but an entire book. Meet the five “love languages” – five different ways that people speak and understand emotional love. They are all described in the book “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate,” by author Gary Chapman. Not only can these love languages help you and your partner understand each other more, but it is a way you can love smarter together. Marriage Couples Counseling in NYC has all the information you need to know about the five love languages.

What are the 5 Love Languages?

The five ways people show, understand and interpret emotional love in relationships are among the following:

Words of Affirmation

If your love language is words of affirmation, you express love and affection through words and spoken praise and appreciation. Hearing your partner say he or she is proud of you or that they love you means the world. If your significant other’s love language is words of affirmation, randomly list the reasons of why you love them the next time you are together.

Physical Touch

Whether it is through an innocent touch, lovemaking or a warm embrace, if your love language is physical touch, you express emotions through being physical with someone. If your spouse’s love language is physical touch, give them a sweet bear hug when he or she walks in the door from work.

Quality Time

When your love language is quality time, you express your love and appreciation for others by giving them your undivided attention. If this is your partner’s love language, put your phone on airplane mode tonight and let them know he or she has all your attention.

Acts of Service

The phrase “actions speak louder than words” resonates with anyone whose love language is acts of service. He or she expresses affection by helping their loved ones with tasks. If this is your partner’s love language, try cooking dinner for them one day out of the blue.

Receiving Gifts

Anyone whose love language is receiving gifts shows their love and affection by giving their partner little tokens of their appreciation. If receiving gifts is your partner’s love language, try giving them something thoughtful next time you see him or her – it doesn’t have to be expensive. It could be a trinket you picked up going about your day or picking some flowers for them from your yard.

How Do I Learn My Love Language?

You probably already have a good grasp on what you love language is from reading the descriptions above. However, if you want to know your official love language, you can take the quiz online. It’s an excellent idea for your partner to answer the questions as well. It is important to love your partner in the way they best understand love. Everyone deserves to feel fulfilled and whole in a romantic relationship.

The more you make a conscious effort to love your partner the way he or she needs to be with their love language, the stronger your relationship will grow. Don’t be afraid to make your needs known to your partner about your love language either, because you both deserve to make each other feel like royalty.

Seeking a Couples Counselor in New York City

If you and your partner feel your relationship can grow stronger through couples counseling in by learning about the five love languages, contact Marriage Couples Counseling in New York City. We want to help your relationship and love flourish and reach its full potential every single day. Give us a call today at (212) 673-4618 for an in-depth phone consultation.

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