Depression is one of the most commonly diagnosed mental disorders in the United States. Tens of millions of Americans are directly affected by the pain this debilitating illness brings. In many instances, depression can destroy relationships, because it’s devastating effects are silent – and can tear those closest apart. Here’s everything you need to know about depression and relationships.
Depression Affects Sex Drive
Depression can have a negative impact on all areas of your relationship. This can include your sex drive.
Your libido is usually determined by how you feel, and when you feel down, often your sex drive decreases as well. This is especially the case with depression. Sex is often one of the greatest ways to bond with your partner. If your partner doesn’t understand why you haven’t been as frisky lately, they may start to feel that you just aren’t that into them.
Unfortunately, when it comes to depression, very often it’s the case that it isn’t them – it’s you. But discussing that can be extremely difficult, leading to fractures in a relationship. This is where effective communication skills are essential. In fact, it’s something that we deal with consistently on our blog. By talking through your issues, you can lovingly explain that you aren’t feeling yourself at the moment, but that your lack of excitement in the bedroom is in no way a reflection on how much you care for them.
Arguments Can Increase
Depression often leads to an increase in squabbling and arguing in relationships. Many people wrongly assume that depression is characterized by crying, but this often isn’t the case. Depression can leave sufferers with a shorter temper, impatience, and a much more cynical outlook on life. This outlook often leads to fights.
When you find that your depression is leading to misunderstandings and arguments, the best thing you can do is speak openly and honestly with your partner about it. You need to acknowledge that your condition is having a direct effect on your mood and that it’s not who you truly are. Your partner should understand. Speaking honestly can help your partner recognize symptoms and learn how to respond in a supportive way.
Isolation is Common
Depression often leads you to isolate yourself from the world – and even from the people you love. With depression, the tendency to emotionally check out is common. By explaining to your partner that you may need space at times, you can create understanding while still maintaining connection. This allows both of you to know that support is still present, even during difficult moments.
Couples Therapy to Help You and Your Partner Communicate
If you feel that a couple’s counselor could help your relationship flourish by helping you communicate better, don’t wait to find one. Relationship Restoration in New York City is here to assist you with any communication issues you may be facing. Do not hesitate to reach out and seek help. Call today at 212-673-4618 for the support you need.
